A homeschool prom has become the center of controversy after one of the attendees was allegedly kicked out for wearing a dress that tempted male chaperones to ogle her.
The girl’s name is Clare Ettinger. She’s a 17-year-old who is a homeschooled senior.
Like most seniors, she wanted to go to the prom. Fortunately, there are a number of homeschooled folks in her area so they all decided to get together and have a homeschool prom, which she happily attended with her boyfriend.
She made sure that she complied with the homeschool association’s dress code. That code requires a “finger length” dress. For those of you not in the know about such codes, that means that when she stands upright and lets her hands hang down, the hem of her dress must be below the end of her fingertips.
Her dress seemed short, though, and she was double-checked at the door. She was eventually given the green light and let inside.
“When I got into the ballroom I laughed, because I was surrounded by girls in much shorter dresses then me, albeit they were shorter, and therefore stood out less in the crowd, but it was still frustrating” Clare wrote in a blog post. “I joined my group of friends, (there were six of us), and told them what happened, they were all appalled, especially considering we’ve been attending this prom all four years of high school and usually wore much shorter dresses then we chose this year. We were also a little grossed out by all the dads on the balcony above the dance floor, ogling and talking amongst themselves.”
Pay especially close attention to that last sentence, because it’s the cause of Clare’s subsequent problems.
Clare was eventually approached by the aforementioned double-checker, a woman who asked her to step outside. When she did, the woman explained the some of the dads complained that she was dancing in a provocative manner and that her dress was too short. Clare, of course, once again demonstrated that she passed the “finger length” test.
After a bit of back-and-forth, Clare was kicked out of the prom, along with some of her friends.
“I was told that the way I dressed and moved my body was causing men to think inappropriately about me, implying that it is my responsibility to control other people’s thoughts and drives,” said Clare.
She did, however, get a refund for her trouble.